Back to basics

I am write this new blog post and adding a new category to my blog this week called “Back to Basics” because I think it is time to get back to the basics. I have wanted to live on a farm since I was a small child and have been talking about living a sustainable lifestyle since I was 21 years old. That is a long time to be dreaming of something and not accomplishing it. Jump on board with the thousands of people who have homesteads and farms so that you too can live a happier, healthier lifestyle by getting back to the basics.

The basics I am referring to are growing your own food in your own garden for starters. In the next year my goal is to have a garden, buy a horse and build a big barn.  I want cattle, chickens, a dog, a couple of amazing mousers (I already have my cat Lucy who rocks at mousing) and of course room to grow and to expand the variety of living things I may want in the future! Like goats and sheep…

To me self-sufficiency and living a sustainable life is by far the healthiest choice a human-being can make! Viewing the direction the world is going for the past couple of decades, the ones who choose this lifestyle will survive and be the remaining few.

Growing your own garden

In growing your own garden you know what is in the earth, fertilizer used and how they were grown. I’ve chosen herlium seeds and will save seeds when I harvest the fruits and vegetables I grow. You are in control of what goes in your gut. Using natural ingredients to tame weeds and get rid of pests that way you know your family is safe eating every single food item you put on the kitchen table from your own garden.

Growing a homestead

I want to have the best homestead I can create and already have plans under way for this amazing next phase of my life. I am very excited and want to bring my experiences and learning to you to inspire you to do the same. When living with autoimmune diseases the way you have to eat can get very expensive and this is a great way to save money, working on bettering yourself in so many ways and being outside in nature is just an added bonus.

Growing a new lifestyle

What you set your mind on doing you can accomplish. Start with a plan and work towards it. If you want it bad enough and run your own life the goal is attainable. To me self-sufficiency and living a sustainable life is by far the healthiest choice a human-being can make! Viewing the direction the world is going for the past couple of decades, the ones who choose this lifestyle will survive and be the remaining few.

 

Positive Thinking & Self Talk

We have a constant running commentary going on in our heads. Concentrate on it to figure out if it’s negative self talk or positive self talk. It’s easy once you notice your self talk to change its course. Whatever you are successful in is where the positive is in your life.

I am working hard on changing the course each time negative thoughts pop in my head. I want to avoid the negative to maintain my health, it was extremely hard work and expensive to get healthy and I want to stay this way. We need to be kind to ourselves.  When I realized that this was going on all the time I saw how I was hard on myself and knew I needed to change.

Sometimes we sit in negativity, how can we not when bad things happen to us. Sitting in the negative is what makes us sick and unbalanced. We dwell, we get stuck, we overthink and we stay in that unhealthy space too long.

It can be an exhaustive cycle that is hard to stop but so easy to spiral out of control. IE: I look ugly.  I’ve gained weight. I should have tried harder.  I’m such a loser or failure. I’ll never get it right. Why did I say that or why did I let him/her treat me like that?

Over time changing the self talk monologue has been a learning experience. Figuring out where in my life I was really down on myself was key. Correcting the negative wording to positive thoughts was a process to learn to  catch each time.

I have trained myself to stop as soon as it starts and change what I’m doing or make a plan so that I can change what it is that I’m down on myself about.  Instead of the negative self talk continuing I’m going to do something about it!

Sometimes it’s a reaction to someone’s actions or words and it can be paralyzing especially when the continuous loop from the time our eyes open until we fall asleep is mental flogging.

Sometimes when things are upsetting or throw me off, in that it’s an uncomfortable situation, those times stay with me and I hold on to them until I’m warm down, even though I don’t need to.  Ridiculous, when I think about it that way!

In general when life hands me negative situations I tend to reason it out immediately. They/he/she are having a bad day. I wonder what that person is going through to make them act or react like that. When I use this strategy it allows me to release that negative energy they put in my life so that it doesn’t bring me down.

I use to have a VERY different outlook on this, a negative outlook that was blame, anger and making sure that person was put in their place!  I have a huge piece of me that doesn’t allow others to be disrespectful towards me or others that are close to me, once they do, I’m not one to forgive.

Then I realized with that kind of attitude I was wasting my time on people that ultimately didn’t warrant my energy. I was using my energy on non issues instead of something positive.

Changing my perspective has truly brought me to a peaceful state of mind. It was a lot of work at the beginning to learn to redirect my thoughts but has slowly become much easier to stay in the positive as time goes by.

Resources:

Pyschology Today

Forbes

Elite Daily

It’s an ongoing process to change the negative into positive but it can be done! Here’s to being kind to ourselves. Cheers, Andrea xo

Figuring out where your blocks are through books (self help & memoirs)

I think we need to stop, take a step back and examine what is not working in our lives. Take time to find the block or blocks.  Ask ourselves “Where is it that the flow has stopped?” or “Why is the flow not what it use to be?” From there we see the past, going through the steps we took and what happened when the change took place. What was it that occurred? Was it a mistake, a failure, trauma, a time when we were off or weak? [In these words I use loosely as I don’t believe in failure or weakness or even mistakes. I see everything that happens in our journey as a milestone, a learning experience, a process that was necessary in our evolution. But in this context I use these words to express my point.]

The hurdles in our path make us put up barricades to protect our emotions and allow us to carry on. Once this happens again and again we form blocks that are so deep that it’s hard to get unstuck. We can become numb or so use to acting a certain way to hide the pain and hurt that we are fake which forces us to atomically go through our days like a robot. Running from the pain, not dealing with it just pushing it down further and further, so the block is changing the course of our lives. We can get so far off our path until we get to the breaking point, that rock bottom. In my case it was illness; autoimmune disorders.

Being in these blocks is like drowning, we are pulled under then for a split second are above water able to gasp for air only to be pulled under again. In this pattern of ebb and flow our bodies become imbalanced which leads to a down hill spiral of negative events. These events are our path, they take us to where we are suppose to be and gets us to where we are intended to go. It’s the “work” we do in that pain that is mandatory to get us to the other side. To be free!
When we release all that takes us to that place of rock bottom we transition into a new person, we become that of which we were always suppose to be. That detour was the doing of psychology, the way in which the human brain works. The brains way of dealing with emotions, not wanting to be hurt or damaged and to suppress pain and the hurt that is taken on by the individual.

Every one of us is different, we can be in the exact same place experiencing the exact same thing/situation yet our experiences will be nothing alike. It’s the way our brains are wired, how we interpret the actions, words, expressions of others. We don’t think about how we are affecting others around us, in that we don’t know how our actions affect people. Psychology!

Here is a link to “THE WORK” with BYRON KATIE, everyone will take from resources what they need and leave the rest. This is how I live my life, I think we all do. But for me it’s not out of ignorance or a closed mind it’s simply the info in front of me was not meant for me at that time. When I need it, somehow it reenters my life, just at the right time…synchronicity! I moved mountains in my life by reading and learning from this brilliant women’s work. – LOVING WHAT IS

In 2013 I was extremely ill (ANEMIA) with undiagnosed Crohns; the culprit of my declining health. I had no idea how sick I was. I was in an unhealthy relationship with a couple of people in my life (along with other people in the background sabotaging the one relationship, truthfully, it surely didn’t need that to decline) and somehow it ALL was wearing on my health. (how to deal with toxic people)  You might want to google NARCISSIST too! Anyway….I was a new emptynester as well, as both my daughters moved out at the same time and I was all alone for the first time in 20 years. IN TWO F**KEN DECADES!!!!

So, there I was living alone in a basement apartment, unhappy in a unhealthy relationship, anemic for over a year at this point and my body was starting to waste away in that my lungs were shutting down, my muscles had started to waste, started to  lose body tissue and I was already extremely unbalanced (mind, body and soul). I was searching for ways to get back my balance and trying to figure out what was going on. The two doctors I had been going to were not helping me in anyway. And this is what I felt like….when things fall apart!

when thing fall apart

This is the first book I read once I realized I needed help to get through whatever it was I was going through. Now, I had never felt sadness or depression before but I was experiencing sadness and had no idea what this emotion was, if you can imagine. Yup, that’s right, I had experienced an incredible amount of death in my younger years but had never had this emotion before. Ends up is was ANEMIA! so the doctor said.

This book started it all….and I mean it ALL! This was the declining stage of my life and for the next five years progressively became worse, in different ways and has challenged me in ways I hope to NEVER be challenged again. EVER!!!!!!!!!! But this book gave me a different outlook, a change in my view of life and mindset. I needed this book as badly as I needed to end the relationship I was in. You should read it along with the other books and links I provide in this post. Who knows you may need one of these resources to help you on the road to healing!

NOW>>>>> These are books I read and go back to many many times. I may read a book or a page or a paragraph, sometimes a sentence then revisit it a year later and get something completely different out of it. That’s how it works for me. I hope that you find this post helpful to get to where you are searching to go!

Pema Chodron – Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change was also an amazing book. She’s written 40 books so there is a lot for you to choose from.

Next was Elizabeth Gilbert, she is an amazingly talented writer, I aspire to be this type of writer. EAT PRAY LOVE, BIG MAGIC!

Then Gabriel Bernstein – I started meditation and was introduced to tapping. SPIRIT JUNKIE, ADD MORE ING TO YOUR LIFE, THE UNIVERSE HAS YOUR BACK. I can’t wait to read her new book JUDGEMENT DETOX!

And all the others who changed my life…

Wayne Dyer – an amazing life of work! SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS

Glennon Doyal Melton – LOVE WARRIOR

Brene Brown- DARING GREATLY, THE POWER OF VULNERABILITY. I can’t wait to read her new book BRAVING THE WILDERNESS

Kris Carr – meditation

All things HAY HOUSE Books, Radio

C.G Jung – SYNCHRONICITY

Tedtalk.com – speakers (most of the ones I’ve listed here)

Deepak Chopra – THE BOOK OF SECRETS

Eckhart Tolle – THE POWER OF NOW

The mind is a powerful thing! Be curious, be adventurous, be open minded, be KIND always. DO THE WORK, enjoy the journey of getting to your authentic self.

Enjoy your weekend friends.

~Andrea

2018 The Year of Selflove

New year, new healthy ways! Taking a step back to examine what is not working in our lives is necessary to be able to move forward into an authentic life.  Take time to find the block, where is it that the flow has stopped or how the flow is not how it use to be. From there we see the past, going through the steps we took and what happened when the change took place. What was it that occurred? Was it a mistake, a failure, trauma, a time when we were off or weak? [In these words I use loosely as I don’t believe in failure or weakness or even mistakes. I see everything that happens in our journey as a milestone, a learning experience, a process that was necessary in our evolution. But in this context I use these words to express my point.]
The hurdles in our path make us put up barricades to protect our emotions and allow us to carry on. Once this happens again and again we form blocks that are so deep that it’s hard to get unstuck. We can become numb or use to acting a certain way to hide the pain and hurt that we are fake which forces us to atomically go through our days like a robot. Running from the pain, not dealing with it just pushing it down further and further, so the block is changing the course of our lives. We can get so far off our path until we get to the breaking point, that rock bottom, either addiction or illness.

Being in these blocks is like drowning, we are pulled under then for a split second are above water able to gasp for air only to be pulled under again. In this pattern of ebb and flow our bodies become imbalanced which leads to a down hill spiral of negative events.

When we release all that takes us to that place of rock bottom we transition into a new person, we become that of which we were always suppose to be. That detour was the doing of psychology, the way in which the human brain works. The brains way of dealing with emotions, not wanting to be hurt or damaged and to suppress pain and the hurt that is taken on by the reactions of the individual.  Assessing myself has been something I’ve done since I was a very young child, being sick all the time. When disease sets in the assessment of our bodies is always happening but I have taken a new approach as I am assessing all the time anyway I take note of my mind and soul as well. Does my soul feel nourished? Does my mind feel balanced?

Selfcare, selflove and keeping balanced are key words in my life now. Those words have become an everyday monitoring system to make sure I am happy and peaceful.  When issues arise I step back and ask: What is this trying to tell me? I think this is so important to assess the situation and yourself in these moments.

I am use to giving everything I have and not receiving anything in return. I catch myself doing this every so often now an when that happens I pull it right back in, as fast as it went out. Everyone is for themselves which I have never been, but I am now! When something arises in my life now I ask: What is this trying to tell me? I take a step back and do it all over again. Being still in the moment helps a great deal to get perspective. This is so for myself.

Happy new year & be well my friends.

Andrea

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