Figuring out where your blocks are through books (self help & memoirs)

I think we need to stop, take a step back and examine what is not working in our lives. Take time to find the block or blocks.  Ask ourselves “Where is it that the flow has stopped?” or “Why is the flow not what it use to be?” From there we see the past, going through the steps we took and what happened when the change took place. What was it that occurred? Was it a mistake, a failure, trauma, a time when we were off or weak? [In these words I use loosely as I don’t believe in failure or weakness or even mistakes. I see everything that happens in our journey as a milestone, a learning experience, a process that was necessary in our evolution. But in this context I use these words to express my point.]

The hurdles in our path make us put up barricades to protect our emotions and allow us to carry on. Once this happens again and again we form blocks that are so deep that it’s hard to get unstuck. We can become numb or so use to acting a certain way to hide the pain and hurt that we are fake which forces us to atomically go through our days like a robot. Running from the pain, not dealing with it just pushing it down further and further, so the block is changing the course of our lives. We can get so far off our path until we get to the breaking point, that rock bottom. In my case it was illness; autoimmune disorders.

Being in these blocks is like drowning, we are pulled under then for a split second are above water able to gasp for air only to be pulled under again. In this pattern of ebb and flow our bodies become imbalanced which leads to a down hill spiral of negative events. These events are our path, they take us to where we are suppose to be and gets us to where we are intended to go. It’s the “work” we do in that pain that is mandatory to get us to the other side. To be free!
When we release all that takes us to that place of rock bottom we transition into a new person, we become that of which we were always suppose to be. That detour was the doing of psychology, the way in which the human brain works. The brains way of dealing with emotions, not wanting to be hurt or damaged and to suppress pain and the hurt that is taken on by the individual.

Every one of us is different, we can be in the exact same place experiencing the exact same thing/situation yet our experiences will be nothing alike. It’s the way our brains are wired, how we interpret the actions, words, expressions of others. We don’t think about how we are affecting others around us, in that we don’t know how our actions affect people. Psychology!

Here is a link to “THE WORK” with BYRON KATIE, everyone will take from resources what they need and leave the rest. This is how I live my life, I think we all do. But for me it’s not out of ignorance or a closed mind it’s simply the info in front of me was not meant for me at that time. When I need it, somehow it reenters my life, just at the right time…synchronicity! I moved mountains in my life by reading and learning from this brilliant women’s work. – LOVING WHAT IS

In 2013 I was extremely ill (ANEMIA) with undiagnosed Crohns; the culprit of my declining health. I had no idea how sick I was. I was in an unhealthy relationship with a couple of people in my life (along with other people in the background sabotaging the one relationship, truthfully, it surely didn’t need that to decline) and somehow it ALL was wearing on my health. (how to deal with toxic people)  You might want to google NARCISSIST too! Anyway….I was a new emptynester as well, as both my daughters moved out at the same time and I was all alone for the first time in 20 years. IN TWO F**KEN DECADES!!!!

So, there I was living alone in a basement apartment, unhappy in a unhealthy relationship, anemic for over a year at this point and my body was starting to waste away in that my lungs were shutting down, my muscles had started to waste, started to  lose body tissue and I was already extremely unbalanced (mind, body and soul). I was searching for ways to get back my balance and trying to figure out what was going on. The two doctors I had been going to were not helping me in anyway. And this is what I felt like….when things fall apart!

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This is the first book I read once I realized I needed help to get through whatever it was I was going through. Now, I had never felt sadness or depression before but I was experiencing sadness and had no idea what this emotion was, if you can imagine. Yup, that’s right, I had experienced an incredible amount of death in my younger years but had never had this emotion before. Ends up is was ANEMIA! so the doctor said.

This book started it all….and I mean it ALL! This was the declining stage of my life and for the next five years progressively became worse, in different ways and has challenged me in ways I hope to NEVER be challenged again. EVER!!!!!!!!!! But this book gave me a different outlook, a change in my view of life and mindset. I needed this book as badly as I needed to end the relationship I was in. You should read it along with the other books and links I provide in this post. Who knows you may need one of these resources to help you on the road to healing!

NOW>>>>> These are books I read and go back to many many times. I may read a book or a page or a paragraph, sometimes a sentence then revisit it a year later and get something completely different out of it. That’s how it works for me. I hope that you find this post helpful to get to where you are searching to go!

Pema Chodron – Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change was also an amazing book. She’s written 40 books so there is a lot for you to choose from.

Next was Elizabeth Gilbert, she is an amazingly talented writer, I aspire to be this type of writer. EAT PRAY LOVE, BIG MAGIC!

Then Gabriel Bernstein – I started meditation and was introduced to tapping. SPIRIT JUNKIE, ADD MORE ING TO YOUR LIFE, THE UNIVERSE HAS YOUR BACK. I can’t wait to read her new book JUDGEMENT DETOX!

And all the others who changed my life…

Wayne Dyer – an amazing life of work! SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS

Glennon Doyal Melton – LOVE WARRIOR

Brene Brown- DARING GREATLY, THE POWER OF VULNERABILITY. I can’t wait to read her new book BRAVING THE WILDERNESS

Kris Carr – meditation

All things HAY HOUSE Books, Radio

C.G Jung – SYNCHRONICITY

Tedtalk.com – speakers (most of the ones I’ve listed here)

Deepak Chopra – THE BOOK OF SECRETS

Eckhart Tolle – THE POWER OF NOW

The mind is a powerful thing! Be curious, be adventurous, be open minded, be KIND always. DO THE WORK, enjoy the journey of getting to your authentic self.

Enjoy your weekend friends.

~Andrea

Never Defined

I’ve never played the victim to my illnesses. My daughter said to me a couple of years ago `You are not defined by anyone or anything. “ I had two thoughts; one I had never thought about it before and wow that is a major statement coming from a 20 year old. Playing the victim to an illness is not helping your situation, in fact it is making it worse. Having that mentality is detrimental to your health. When I first started on social media about this last Crohns flare it was for one reason only, to let others know they are not the only one, that others are struggling and going through the grieving and healing process too.

As I posted and my followers grew I followed them too. But then I realized that almost everyone of them who was dealing with autoimmune disorders were sucky, poor me, look what happened to me now. This victim mindset was prevalent on more accounts than not. It was toxic. It disgusted me. I unfollowed every single one of them because it brought me down, it made me think this isn’t how this should go, why would you let others see you being weak and pathetic. I’m not like that I can’t watch this happen. I’m strong, I’m a fighter, I don’t back down. Never have!

So, for all you who have an autoimmune disease(s) I am a fact based person, here you will find my journey to figure out how to get from almost dying to healthy and beyond. And most importantly, to never ever let that happen again!

I think it is important for people to know the facts, to hear what happens to others so that we can learn and so that maybe I can help someone avoid what I’ve gone through. At 17 I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia in Toronto, Ontario by a specialist. At that time I was told to go on disability. I refused. I’m a fighter I’m not going to be labeled at such a young age. I am not giving in to disease, I’m not a quitter and I most definitely did not want people looking down at me. Wasn’t gonna happen! I’m still not on disability even as my diseases multiple but you know what I can see that I will have to at some point and there is nothing wrong with that. But at that young age all I could see was people would take over my life, that they would have control over me. And I’m glad I didn’t at that time.

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We don’t have to be victims to our circumstances, to illness, to diseases. Speaking our truth is different, it’s telling the facts, educating and advocating. Advocacy for ourselves, for others, for disease, for healing and for strength. So, please don’t mistake the content in my posts as playing the victim or wanting sympathy or attention. If you knew me you would know that couldn’t be further from the truth.

Thoughts become words which become actions. Being a victim is hard for me to understand so I had to do a little research.

Victim: One who is harmed by or made to suffer under a circumstance or condition. Victim mentality is an acquired personality trait in which a person tends to recognize themselves as a victim of the negative actions of others, and to behave as if this were the case in the face of contrary evidence of such circumstances. Victim mentality depends on clear thought processes and attribution.

I think the worst part of playing the victim is not making changes to your life.  I have talked to many and they refuse to make changes.  If you have illness, your lifestyle is not working for you. You have to change your thinking, your lifestyle and your surroundings. We all struggle, there are far worse situations to be in that others are dealing with right now. Be a fighter, win back your life, DO THE WORK! You will get there. Don’t give up.

Tell your story! But for the right reasons. To educate, inform, advocate and to heal!

Light Love & Peace ~Andrea xo

The Importance of Eating Alkaline Foods

What are Alkaline Foods?

An alkaline diet emphasizes alkaline foods such as whole fruits and vegetables and certain whole grains, which are low in caloric density. Healthy Alkaline Diet Foods involve the ideal balance between acidifying and alkalizing foods.

The body includes a number of organ systems that are adept at neutralizing and eliminating excess acid, but there is a limit to how much acid even a healthy body can cope with effectively. The body is capable of maintaining an acid-alkaline balance provided that the organs are functioning properly, that a well-balanced alkaline diet is being consumed, and that other acid-producing factors are avoided.

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Here is a list of high Alkaline Foods: Examples of Alkalining Vegetables: Beets, Broccoli, Cauliflower, Celery, Cucumber, Kale, Lettuce, Onions, Peas, Peppers, Spinach

Examples of Alkalizing Fruits: Apple, Banana, Berries, Cantaloupe, Grapes, Melon, Lemon, Orange, Peach, Pear, Watermelon

Alkalizing Protein: Almonds, Chestnuts, Tofu

Alkalizing Spices: Cinnamon, Curry, Ginger, Mustard, Sea Salt

Here is a link with a list of Alkaline Foods and important information to go along with each one.

Danielle Walker from Against All Grain has three cookbooks, an app, and tons of recipes on her website that are a great balance of alkaline and acidic foods. Majority are alkaline which is why she is having such success with her recipes. The whole30 is another great source for a balance lifestyle. I eat the way these two women cook and eat.

Andrea

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Ayurveda

What’s your dosha?

Ayurveda is an holistic approach to healing I have looked to in the past couple of decades but in researching about it in the past year and a half I have learned about it in much more depth. In practicing it to regain my health it has become a natural part of my every day life with absolute essential health benefits that I will carry on using for the rest of my life. I find it quite interesting because I need balance in all aspects of my life, in learning how my body works and what type of person I am, in how I react and deal with life helps me understand how to keep myself balanced.

I use mindfulness, meditation, listening to my body and understanding the signs, reading myself and using the resources I have collected to bring myself back into balance. When I am losing balance my sleep is affected, I become cold in my feet, hands and in general. I figure out what the root cause is so I can correct it immediately like removing stress and by drinking warm or hot beverages, eating wet foods like avocados, ghee and the like along with making sure to keep warm with clothes and blankets when I am sleeping are a few thing I do to balance my body for optimal health.

WebMD.com ~ Ayurvedic medicine — also known as Ayurveda — is one of the world’s oldest holistic (whole-body) healing systems. It was developed thousands of years ago in India. It is based on the belief that health and wellness depend on a delicate balance between the mind, body, and spirit. The primary focus of Ayurvedic medicine is to promote good health, rather than fight disease. But treatments may be recommended for specific health problems.

Adapting this philosophy requires an open mind, I can’t believe the amount of people that are closed minded and won’t even try something new or different even if it would help them heal and to live a healthy balanced life. If one thing isn’t working common sense tells me to try something new.  Look at different avenues to find what works best for you as a whole person along with your health issues. I can guarantee you will benefit from learning Ayurveda and how it relates to your whole being and especially when dealing with disease how it will bring you back to a healthy you or even better stay balanced so you won’t have to fight disease.

WebMD.com~Ayurveda Concepts-According to Ayurvedic theory, everything in the universe — living or not — is connected. Good health is achieved when your mind, body, and spirit are in harmony with the universe. A disruption of this harmony can lead to poor health and sickness. For followers of Ayurveda, anything that affects your physical, spiritual, or emotional well-being can cause you to be out of balance with the universe. How your body works to keep you healthy and your unique physical and psychological characteristics combine to form your body’s constitution, or prakriti. Your prakriti is believed to stay the same for your entire life. However, how you digest food and eliminate waste can influence it.

The 5 elements in the universe are earth, wind, fire, water and space and each of us have a combo of these elements.  The three life forces are called doshas, these are : Vata – space and air, Pitta – fire and water, and Kapha – water and earth.

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Vata dosha (space and air) is thought to be the most powerful of all three doshas. It controls very basic body functions, such as how cells divide. It also controls your: Mind, Breathing, Blood flow, Heart function, Ability to get rid of body waste through the intestines.  Things that can disrupt this dosha are: Eating dry fruit, Eating too soon after a previous meal, Fear, Grief, Staying up too late.  If vata dosha is your main life force, you are more likely to develop: Anxiety, Asthma, Heart disease, Nervous system disorders, Rheumatoid arthritis, Skin problems.

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Pitta Dosha

The pitta dosha (fire and water) controls: Digestion, Ability to break down foods (metabolism), Certain hormones linked to appetite.  Things that can disrupt this dosha are: Eating sour foods, Eating spicy foods, Fatigue, Spending too much time in the sun.
If pitta dosha is your main life force, you are more likely to develop: Anger and negative emotions, Crohn’s disease, Heart disease, Heartburn a few hours after eating, High blood pressure, Infections

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Kapha Dosha
The kapha dosha (water and earth) controls: Muscle growth, Body strength and stability, Weight, and Immune system. Things that can disrupt this dosha are: Daytime sleeping, Eating after your stomach is full, Eating or drinking items that have too much salt or water, Eating too many sweet foods and Greed.  If kapha dosha is your main life force, you are more likely to develop: Asthma and other breathing disorders, Cancer, Diabetes, Nausea after eating and Obesity.

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Ayurvedic Treatment

Treatment depends on your unique prakriti, your primary dosha, and the balance between all three of them.  A main goal of Ayurvedic medicine is to cleanse your body of undigested food called ama, which can stick to the inside of your body and make you sick. This cleansing process is called panchakarma. It is used to reduce any symptoms and reestablish harmony and balance.

Other treatments may also be recommended to: Restore balance, Improve spiritual healing, Boost your immunity, Reduce symptoms. The treatments may include: Aromatherapy, Breathing exercises, Diet changes, Herbs, vitamins, minerals, and metals, Plant-based oils and spices, Lifestyle changes, Meditation, Stretching and Yoga

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I’m a VATA

I am a dominant Vata dosha. I had all the signs and symptoms that vata body types show when vata is not in balance. I had vitamin and mineral deficiency which causes anemia, malnutrition, low blood pressure, weight loss and muscle wasting. Protein deficiency that include symptoms of hair loss and fluid retention. Sugar imbalance having the symptoms of bloating, flatulence, and explosive diarrhea. And fat deficiency with typical symptoms of irregular bowel movements.  If only I had read deeper into Ayurveda sooner I may have recognized the imbalance as an issue and found homeopathy earlier. But I believe every thing happens for a reason and I know I learned a lot more than just about my failing health when I became so ill. Hindsight is 20/20! 😉

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To regain balance

Check out this amazing website, it has everything you need to learn about your body with the benefits of Ayurveda. Just click through on the links below!

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Now that I know what to do when I feel the slightest imbalance I can hop right back on the right path and avoid becoming unbalanced and never become as sick as I was again!

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~Andrea